But I’ve tried everything, and I still can’t stop!
- I hear that a lot, and what I see people do is sign up for different programs, try them for a bit and then go back to drinking. There is one magic ingredient, and that is consistency.
We just keep doing the stuff that supports us. Most people put intensity over consistency, and that’s why they fail. The Soberful method is about making small manageable changes.
I’m scared I’m going to fail. Lots of people feel like that, and it’s one of the reasons people put off starting. They are scared to fail, so they don’t do anything to change their lives. How crazy is that? At Soberful, we don’t believe in failure; in fact, there is no such thing. There is only feedback. What you have is a lot of feedback about what doesn’t work. This program will teach you what does work.
I’m scared of missing out if I stop drinking. And this is the number one reason that people are scared to stop. When I ask my clients what they are scared of missing out on exactly, they often find it hard to really pinpoint. Mostly it’s the fear that they won’t have fun again. This is a perception, not necessarily a truth. This message is reinforced by our media, culture and peer group. When we look closely at our drinking, it often doesn’t look like fun. It looks like hard work at a huge cost. We are not told that every time we drink, there is a cost, so ask yourself are you getting a good return on your investment with alcohol? Is it delivering on its promises? I didn’t think so. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be here reading this. I promise you sobriety is more fun than you can imagine (and if it wasn’t, I would have been drunk twenty years ago!), and if you put the effort in, you will discover a life that you can’t even imagine. You can socialise, party, laugh and do everything sober and guess what it’s better!