A simple plan to break free from alcohol... forever.
With Veronica Valli,
award winning author of Soberful
You want to stop drinking.
But part of you still believes alcohol is the best way to have fun, socialize and relax, and if you stop, that you'll miss out.
But you shouldn't have to choose between fun and health. That’s why I created the Sober System, a 5-month program that helps you ditch alcohol and build a life you love even more than the one you have now.
You want to stop drinking.
But part of you still believes alcohol is the best way to have fun, socialize and relax, and if you stop, that you'll miss out… forever.
But you shouldn't have to choose between fun and health. That’s why I created the Sober System, a 5-month program that helps you ditch alcohol and build a life you love even more than the one you have now.
Award-winning author of Soberful: Uncover a sustainable fulfilling life free of alcohol.
Hi. I’m Veronica, a therapist and sober sister.
Thousands of my clients have felt stuck in grey-area drinking. Stopping and starting. Knowing deep down that alcohol is not their friend, but unable to walk away for good.
I get it; I've been there, too. Alcohol was destroying my life, so I stopped drinking. But it was staying stopped that was the problem… until I had a Sober System. Now, with 23 years of sobriety under my belt, I’m living a more fulfilling life than I ever could’ve dreamed back then. I want the same for you.
Hi. I’m Veronica,
a therapist and sober sister. I’m also the award-winning author of Soberful: Uncover a sustainable fulfilling life free of alcohol.
Thousands of my clients have felt stuck in grey-area drinking. Stopping and starting. Knowing deep down that alcohol is not their friend, but unable to walk away for good.
I get it; I've been there, too. Alcohol was destroying my life, so I stopped drinking. But it was staying stopped that was the problem… until I had a Sober System. Now, with 23 years of sobriety under my belt, I’m living a more fulfilling life than I ever could’ve dreamed back then. I want the same for you.
Sound familiar?
Kelly’s story is like so many we hear.
I couldn't stop drinking—for over 15 years I tried to quit.
On the outside I had this very high functioning, ‘put-together’ life. I could do it all, almost everything and anything, but I couldn't stop drinking. I read "Quit-Lit", tried AA, listened to podcasts, joined a few online support groups and "programs," and hired another online "coach." None of it worked for me. I came to the realization that after trying to stop drinking for so long and not succeeding, that if I continued on this path alcohol was going to kill me. And I knew that I didn't want to die.
That’s when I found Veronica, my super hero.
Veronica is a trained professional therapist. Her own sobriety combined with her experience as a therapist make her expertise invaluable. She coaches with kindness, knowledge, skill, and humor (she's very funny). I felt she held my hand throughout the time we worked together. My only regret is that I didn't hire her sooner. I wasted a lot of years of my life (and money) on booze and on trying to stop drinking with other “programs” and "coaches." Veronica Valli literally saved my life and I will be eternally grateful. - Kelly, 59
Sound familiar?
Kelly’s story is like so many we hear.
I couldn't stop drinking—for over 15 years I tried to quit.
On the outside I had this very high functioning, ‘put-together’ life. I could do it all, almost everything and anything, but I couldn't stop drinking. I read "Quit-Lit", tried AA, listened to podcasts, joined a few online support groups and "programs," and hired another online "coach." None of it worked for me. I came to the realization that after trying to stop drinking for so long and not succeeding, that if I continued on this path alcohol was going to kill me. And I knew that I didn't want to die.
That’s when I found Veronica, my super hero.
Veronica is a trained professional therapist. Her own sobriety combined with her experience as a therapist make her expertise invaluable. She coaches with kindness, knowledge, skill, and humor (she's very funny). I felt she held my hand throughout the time we worked together. My only regret is that I didn't hire her sooner. I wasted a lot of years of my life (and money) on booze and on trying to stop drinking with other “programs” and "coaches." Veronica Valli literally saved my life and I will be eternally grateful. - Kelly, 59
Getting sober is 10% about alcohol and 90% about emotions.
The Sober System helps you stop drinking (the first 10% of the work), then helps you get emotionally sober (the other 90% of the job).
Getting sober is 10% about alcohol and 90% about emotions.
The Sober System helps you stop drinking (the first 10% of the work), then helps you get emotionally sober (the other 90% of the job). Because, until you master your emotions and feel comfortable in your own skin, there’s no amount of will power that can keep you from the cabinet.In other words, when we care for our mental and emotional health, our sobriety takes care of itself.
Until you master your emotions and feel comfortable in your own skin, there’s no amount of will power that can keep you from the cabinet.
Stop thinking about alcohol
Be comfortable in your skin
Discover more fun & relaxation
Stop thinking about alcohol
Be comfortable in your skin
Discover more fun & relaxation
When we care for our mental and emotional health, our sobriety takes care of itself.
When we care for our mental and emotional health, our sobriety takes care of itself.
I finally got to a place where I needed more with sobriety. Veronica was exactly what I needed. She dug deep to find the ultimate reason for my drinking. . . and put things in perspective for me. . .My mind is clearer, I'm back to being successful in different areas of my life, and most importantly, I’m back to living life!! When Veronica says she doesn't do fluff, she means it. - Theresa, 60
I finally got to a place where I needed more with sobriety. Veronica was exactly what I needed. She dug deep to find the ultimate reason for my drinking. . . and put things in perspective for me. . .My mind is clearer, I'm back to being successful in different areas of my life, and most importantly, I’m back to living life!! When Veronica says she doesn't do fluff, she means it. - Theresa, 60
Here's what you get.
The Sober System helps you get off the merry-go-round and thrive in a wet world as someone who doesn't drink. Over the course of five months, you will not only understand why you drink, but also how to stop—and stay stopped—for the rest of your life.
PRACTICE
Weekly Coaching Calls (3 p.m. EST on Wednesdays)
The weekly calls are there to support you in developing a sobriety practice. We are going to learn how to change our behaviour, master our thoughts and create emotional stability as these are the foundations to lasting sobriety. Veronica leads these 90-minute calls every Wednesday. For privacy reasons, these are not recorded.
REFLECT
One-day Online Retreat (November 15th from 1-6 p.m. EST)
Early in the program we have a one-day online retreat. During the retreat, I will guide you through a practice to transform how you deal with activating events—the events that trigger strong emotional responses. When we don’t know how to deal with these activating events, they often lead to drinking, but with this new practice, you will be able to restore your emotional balance and resist the urge to numb your feelings.
LEARN
Video modules and handouts
A video and handout accompany each module to reinforce what you are learning. We encourage you to review these videos to absorb the skills, techniques and processes we are learning.
CELEBRATE
Online Community (Immediate Access)
As soon as you enroll in The Sober System, you get immediate 6 months exclusive access to our vibrant online community for the length of your program (don’t worry—it’s private, and not on Facebook!).
Alumni Calls
When you graduate from the program, you’re invited to join my alumni program. The alumni program is how you maintain sobriety with regular support calls, workshops and community. You can attend sessions for as long as you keep your membership. We have many people who have been attending these calls for years.
Here's what you get.
The Sober System helps you get off the merry-go-round and thrive in a wet world as someone who doesn't drink. Over the course of five months, you will not only understand why you drink, but also how to stop—and stay stopped—for the rest of your life.
PRACTICE
Weekly Coaching Calls (3 p.m. EST on Wednesdays)
The weekly calls are there to support you in developing a sobriety practice. We are going to learn how to change our behaviour, master our thoughts and create emotional stability as these are the foundations to lasting sobriety. Veronica leads these 90-minute calls every Wednesday. For privacy reasons, these are not recorded.
REFLECT
One-day Online Retreat (November 15th from 1-6 p.m. EST)
Early in the program we have a one-day online retreat. During the retreat, I will guide you through a practice to transform how you deal with activating events—the events that trigger strong emotional responses. When we don’t know how to deal with these activating events, they often lead to drinking, but with this new practice, you will be able to restore your emotional balance and resist the urge to numb your feelings.
LEARN
Video modules and handouts
A video and handout accompany each module to reinforce what you are learning. We encourage you to review these videos to absorb the skills, techniques and processes we are learning.
CELEBRATE
Online Community (Immediate Access)
As soon as you enroll in The Sober System, you get immediate 6 months exclusive access to our vibrant online community for the length of your program (don’t worry—it’s private, and not on Facebook!).
PERSIST
Alumni Calls
When you graduate from the program, you’re invited to join my alumni program. The alumni program is how you maintain sobriety with regular support calls, workshops and community. You can attend sessions for as long as you keep your membership. We have many people who have been attending these calls for years.
What you’ll learn.
During the one-day retreat that kicks of The Sober System program, we’ll cover seven core modules. Throughout the program, you’ll have access to videos, worksheets, coaching calls, and an online community that help you implement what you learn.
Module One - The True Cost of Drinking
Before anything else, it’s important to understand what alcohol costs us. When we are stuck in an alcohol problem, we only see the (perceived) benefits and not the cost. Getting clear on the actual price of drinking is what motivates us to change.
Module Two - The Five Pillars of Sobriety
In this module, we will create a foundation for your sobriety. You will learn about the five pillars and how they keep you sober. We will be focussing on how to balance your needs and create boundaries. You will learn how to have boundaries in your life and close relationships. Through coaching and practising the five pillars, we reduce the stress and triggers that lead to drinking.
Module three - Dealing with activating events
Activating events are when something happens (a conversation or an event) that triggers strong emotional responses we can’t let go of. It goes around in our heads, and we start feeling resentful and unappreciated. If we leave these feelings unchecked, they eventually lead to a drink. I will teach you a simple and life-changing method that will change your feelings and give you better responses.
Module four - Uncover the limiting beliefs in your subconscious mind
In this module we learn what limiting beliefs are, why they have become rules in our subconscious mind, and how this faulty thinking has repeatedly created results we don’t want. You will learn how to identify your own limiting beliefs, and how to change them so you can overcome the negative patterns that keep you stuck.
Module five - Overcoming childhood patterns
Whether or not you realize it—and even if your childhood seemed “normal”—you developed patterns in childhood that continue to play out in your life. We explore how birth order, family messaging and our two vital needs (attachment and authenticity) shape our adult experiences.
Module six - How we communicate
Communicating our needs is a really important part of emotional sobriety. We get stuck in toxic and dysfunctional patterns with the people we are close to, which often means our needs aren’t met and we don’t feel seen. This leads us to feeling angry and resentful. In this module, you will learn how to change how you communicate.
Module seven - Customizing your sobriety system
In the final module, we want to create a practice that supports our mental and emotional health for the rest of our lives. We will learn that it’s the positive habits that we do consistently that keep us emotionally sober.
What you’ll learn.
During the one-day retreat that kicks of The Sober System program, we’ll cover fseven core modules. Throughout the program, you’ll have access to videos, worksheets, coaching calls, and an online community that help you implement what you learn.
Module One - The True Cost of Drinking
Before anything else, it’s important to understand what alcohol costs us. When we are stuck in an alcohol problem, we only see the (perceived) benefits and not the cost. Getting clear on the actual price of drinking is what motivates us to change.
Module Two - The Five Pillars of Sobriety
In this module, we will create a foundation for your sobriety. You will learn about the five pillars and how they keep you sober. We will be focussing on how to balance your needs and create boundaries. You will learn how to have boundaries in your life and close relationships. Through coaching and practising the five pillars, we reduce the stress and triggers that lead to drinking.
Module three - Dealing with activating events
Activating events are when something happens (a conversation or an event) that triggers strong emotional responses we can’t let go of. It goes around in our heads, and we start feeling resentful and unappreciated. If we leave these feelings unchecked, they eventually lead to a drink. I will teach you a simple and life-changing method that will change your feelings and give you better responses.
Module four - Uncover the limiting beliefs in your subconscious mind
Module five - Overcoming childhood patterns
Whether or not you realize it—and even if your childhood seemed “normal”—you developed patterns in childhood that continue to play out in your life. We explore how birth order, family messaging and our two vital needs (attachment and authenticity) shape our adult experiences.
Module six - How we communicate
Communicating our needs is a really important part of emotional sobriety. We get stuck in toxic and dysfunctional patterns with the people we are close to, which often means our needs aren’t met and we don’t feel seen. This leads us to feeling angry and resentful. In this module, you will learn how to change how you communicate.
Module seven - Customizing your sobriety system
I want to do this, but I’m scared/have questions!
Then Book a Next-Step Assessment Call to discuss with Veronica if The Sober System is right for you!
I want to do this, but I’m scared/have questions!
Then Book a Next-Step Assessment Call to discuss with Veronica if The Sober System is right for you!
Program Details
Start date: Wednesday, October 18th
Call times: 3pm EST/8pm UK Calls last 90 minutes (calls not recorded)
Online retreat: Wednesday, November 15th @ 11am - 4pm EST
Program ends: Wednesday, March 20th 2024
Program Details
Start date:
Wednesday, October 18th
Call times:
3pm EST/8pm UK Calls last 90 minutes (calls not recorded)
Online retreat:
Wednesday, November 15th,
Program ends:
Wednesday, March 20th 2024
Wednesday, October 18th
Call times:
3pm EST/8pm UK Calls last 90 minutes (calls not recorded)
Online retreat:
Wednesday, November 15th,
11am - 4pm EST.
Program ends:
Wednesday, March 20th 2024
There are a lot of sober influencer selling
sober services how do
I know you are legit?
I agree; there are a lot of unqualified people selling quick solutions. Please check out my qualifications, experience, testimonials and books. I have been sober for over 23 years and worked as an accredited psychotherapist in the UK. I have thousands of supervised clinical hours, which means a more experienced therapist supervised my practice.
I encourage everyone considering working with me to check me out. I stand by my experience and results.
How do I know this will work for me?
What if I’m still drinking?
This program is for both those who are still drinking and for those who have stopped drinking, but crave it. We believe that sobriety is like a seesaw and that you need to keep putting weight on the sober end. The more weight (information, knowledge and support) on the sober end means that eventually, your sobriety will become embedded. If you join this program, you are making a significant commitment to yourself to be sober.
Do I need to come to every coaching session?
No, you are welcome to come to as many as you want, but you do not need to come every week. We see the best results when participants commit to at least two monthly sessions so the team can help them apply what they learned.
For how long do I get access to the program?
All the materials are stored in the Soberful Life platform. You can access them for six months. After the program completes, you have the option of retaining your Soberful Life membership for a monthly fee of $15.99/mo. The handouts used throughout the program are all downloadable, and you can keep those forever.
What happens when I finish the program?
We run twice monthly Alumni support groups in Soberful Life; we encourage you to attend these once you graduate. All our group programs are very practical and cognitive, and we want to support you to use the tools we teach in your daily life long after the program completes. You can attend alumni calls for as long as you keep your Soberful Life membership (an ongoing monthly commitment of $15.99/month).
I don’t use Facebook. Can I still participate?
The Sober System community is not on Facebook. We use an online platform that allows us to create posts just like in Facebook, as well as to host all the videos and training materials in one secure, private place.
Do I have to reveal my real name when I create a profile?
You can create an anonymous profile if you prefer to keep your communications confidential.
What if I change my mind and want a refund?
Before signing up for this program, we encourage you to do due diligence and research the facilitators so you can feel confident in their skills and abilities. Also, read and watch the testimonials. We limit the numbers of this program, so when someone commits, we hold them to that commitment and have a non-refundable policy.
If you’ve done your research and still aren’t sure The Sober System is right for you, please schedule a Next-Step Assessment call. You’ll talk to me, Veronica, about your goals and life circumstances, and I’ll give you some direction about what’s the next best possible step for you.
Still scrolling? You might be wondering…
There are a lot of sober influencer selling
sober services how do
I know you are legit?
How do I know this will work for me?
I make two guarantees in my programs: 1) I will mess up your drinking (as you can’t unknow what I will reveal to you) and 2) you will experience a transformation.
How can I guarantee the second one? A lot of what I teach in the sober system is very cognitive. I will give you tools to shift your thoughts and feelings when you use them (and I will teach you exactly how). It’s not that some people ‘get it’ and some don’t; it’s that some people ‘do it’ and some people don’t. It is about taking action, we can’t think our way into sobriety.
But please note that I haven’t done anything perfectly in our sobriety. I will show you how to make small, consistent changes that will result in significant life changes. So if you show up imperfectly and messily, I can guarantee you will get results in this program.
But you have to show up. I don’t have a magic wand ;)
OMG The price!
How do I know this will work for me?
This program is for both those who are still drinking and for those who have stopped drinking, but crave it. We believe that sobriety is like a seesaw and that you need to keep putting weight on the sober end. The more weight (information, knowledge and support) on the sober end means that eventually, your sobriety will become embedded. If you join this program, you are making a significant commitment to yourself to be sober.
Do I need to come to every coaching session?
No, you are welcome to come to as many as you want, but you do not need to come every week. We see the best results when participants commit to at least two monthly sessions so the team can help them apply what they learned.
For how long do I get access to the program?
All the materials are stored in the Soberful Life platform. You can access them for six months. After the program completes, you have the option of retaining your Soberful Life membership for a monthly fee of $15.99/mo. The handouts used throughout the program are all downloadable, and you can keep those forever.
What happens when I finish the program?
We run twice monthly Alumni support groups in Soberful Life; we encourage you to attend these once you graduate. All our group programs are very practical and cognitive, and we want to support you to use the tools we teach in your daily life long after the program completes. You can attend alumni calls for as long as you keep your Soberful Life membership (an ongoing monthly commitment of $15.99/month).
I don’t use Facebook. Can I still participate?
The Sober System community is not on Facebook. We use an online platform that allows us to create posts just like in Facebook, as well as to host all the videos and training materials in one secure, private place.
Do I have to reveal my real name when I create a profile?
You can create an anonymous profile if you prefer to keep your communications confidential.
What if I change my mind and want a refund?
This is your sliding doors moment.
Which one will you choose? Life as you have been living it? Or a new sober life? It’s perfectly normal to feel scared. But it’s time to stop kicking the can down the road. Because a year from now, your life could look very different.
- You could be sober and never miss alcohol.
- You could lose weight and feel healthier.
- You could be sleeping better.
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You could get off ‘shame train.
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You could look in the mirror and finally like who is looking back at you.
This could be you next year, and it would feel priceless.
This is your sliding doors moment.
Which one will you choose? Life as you have been living it? Or a new sober life? It’s perfectly normal to feel scared. But it’s time to stop kicking the can down the road. Because a year from now, your life could look very different.
- You could be sober and never miss alcohol.
- You could lose weight and feel healthier.
- You could be sleeping better.
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You could get off ‘shame train.
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You could look in the mirror and finally like who is looking back at you.
This could be you next year, and it would feel priceless.
Meet Sheelagh; she took the program two years ago, and look what happened:
I was finally able to face myself, address my fears, and learn to trust myself. Veronica returned me to myself, and I have never felt more peace and more connected to myself and the people I love.
I thought this was an impossibility for me. My life is not perfect, of course, but I love my life, and I love being sober. I am able to live sober through the ups and downs, take responsibility for and learn from my mistakes, and I am able to show up authentically for myself and those I love. What a gift it has been to work with Veronica; I am forever grateful.”
Sheelagh 2022
(Completed the Sober Mindset in 2020)
Meet Sheelagh; she took the program two years ago, and look what happened:
I was finally able to face myself, address my fears, and learn to trust myself. Veronica returned me to myself, and I have never felt more peace and more connected to myself and the people I love.
I thought this was an impossibility for me. My life is not perfect, of course, but I love my life, and I love being sober. I am able to live sober through the ups and downs, take responsibility for and learn from my mistakes, and I am able to show up authentically for myself and those I love. What a gift it has been to work with Veronica; I am forever grateful.”
Sheelagh 2022
(Completed the Sober Mindset in 2020)
Check out Jen's amazing story of how the Sober Mindset helped her heal her childhood, recover from cancer, start dating again and completely transform her life.
Check out Jen's amazing story of how the Sober Mindset helped her heal her childhood, recover from cancer, start dating again and completely transform her life.
"Six months ago, and six months into joining this community, I took the best decision of my life. I joined the Sober Mindset course.I can honestly say it has changed my life.We have done a huge amount of work on ourselves, learnt new tools and how to gain true emotional sobriety.It has been really hard work, harrowing at times, challenging me in all the right ways and a commitment week in and week out. The amazing people I met in this group have been a true inspiration, we have been through and shared so much. It made a huge difference to be doing this kind of deep work with such a lovely bunch of people, who are now friends. I would encourage anyone thinking about doing so, to sign up. It's a great investment in your future." - Suzy
"My time with Veronica has empowered me with practices that have completely changed the trajectory of my life; it was transformational! If you are ready to journey on the road to emotional sobriety, Veronica will is the best guide to start you on the path." - Chris
"Thank you Veronica for helping me reach this important milestone You came to me exactly when i needed you. Funny how that works…" - Karla
"I finally got to a place where I needed more 1on1 help with sobriety. Veronica was exactly what I needed. She dug deep to find the ultimate reason for my drinking. I never was a big drinker until I hit age 50. As Veronica helped me see my lack of boundaries, we got down to the main reason why I drink. I've always loved personally growing. This was another layer that was needed. Veronica put things in perspective for me. I know I'm finally on the journey back to who I really am. My mind is clearer, I'm back to being successful in different areas of my life and most importantly, back to living life!! When Veronica says she doesn't do fluff, she means it.
Thank you." - Theresa
"[Working with Veronica]was a game-changer for me. I was able to reach deeper into the roots of my problematic drinking, have many realisations and be ok with being vulnerable with the peer group for the first time in my life. The program gave me great tools to stay balanced and keep working on my painful past. After working with trained professionals, it is easier to stay sober and I wish I had an opportunity to take part in it many years ago." - Urszula
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